This is great when you rushing out to work and you don't really have time to eat. I strongly recommend this for you. Morning meal is the most interesting and important meal of the day. Please don't forget to always enjoy it.
INGREDIENTS
1/2 cups over-ripe mashed banana (For all substitutions, see nutrition link below)
1 tsp salt
5 tbsp pure maple syrup, agave, or honey OR stevia equivalent amount
2/3 cup mini chocolate chips, optional
2 1/3 cups water - Increase to 2 2/3 cups if using stevia
1/4 cup + 1 tbsp coconut or veg oil (Fat-free option listed in the nutrition link below)
2 1/2 tsp pure vanilla extract
optional add-ins: cinnamon, shredded coconut, chopped walnuts, ground flax or chia, wheat germ, raisins, dried fruit, etc.
Instructions
Preheat oven to 380 F, and line 24-25 cupcake tins. In a large mixing bowl, combine all dry ingredients and stir very well. In a separate bowl, combine and stir all wet ingredients (including banana). Mix wet into dry, then pour into the cupcake liners and bake 21 minutes. I also like to then broil for 1-2 minutes, but it’s optional. (If you let them cool overnight, they’ll no longer stick to the liners.) These oatmeal cakes can be eaten right away, or they can be frozen and reheated for an instant breakfast on a busy day.
Anxiety about a partner's sexual history is a common thing, moreso in sexually repressed societies, but everywhere. Yes it is immature, but it is also understandable, and I think you deserve a lot of credit for recognizing it as a problem and asking for help.
The first thing I would consider is how you view sexuality, in particular female sexuality. There's a good chance you've been told your entire life that women are properly virginal and innocent, and you are dealing with some serious cognitive dissonance as you love this woman who has slept with someone else. How can you love someone who betrays what your culture calls lovable? You seem to understand that your emotional reaction to her sexuality is dumb, which is why you're asking for help in how to adjust it. This is not an easy thing to do. You've been taught your whole life to view women's sexuality in a particular way. You have a habitual way of thinking, and habits, especially emotional habits, are hard to change. But they are changeable.
First of all, forgive yourself for feeling this way. Yes it's screwed up, but you're handling it pretty well and you didn't ask to feel this way. It's just happening. So don't blame yourself.
Second, you need to talk with her about it. You need to share with her your feelings. When you discuss your feelings, make sure it is clear that this is not about her. This is about you, and you think she should know, and you'd like her to understand. This is a part of you you're not proud of, but it's there, and you're working on it. "I'm sorry I've reacted this way to your sexual past. I have some cultural baggage associated with sex I'm working through. It has nothing to do with my feelings for you. It's just me, I know it's wrong, and I'm working on it, but I feel the need to let you know." This is something that's out of your comfort zone and you didn't even realize it about yourself until recently. When you apologize, you should not grovel or beg for forgiveness or some such thing. Just apologize, acknowledge that the way you're reacting to sexuality is a cultural habit that is wrong, and that you are working on it. That's all that is needed.
Third, listen to what she has to say and how things are from her perspective, how she feels about sex, and so on. Ask questions. Note when you feel defensive or uncomfortable. Acknowledge the feeling, don't have an outburst over it. Let it inform you.
Last, as you encounter these feelings in the future, consciously remind yourself of what you learned in your conversation. She's done nothing wrong and has been nothing but faithful to you, she loves you very much, the time you spend together is special, and that is what matters. The cultural stuff panicking over virginity is bullshit and that voice in your head needs to shut the fuck up. I would encourage you to be just that forceful with that voice. Let the voice that is glad and cherishes the present time you have with her win, because in years to come, that is going to be what matters in your memory.
Here are my easy-to-follow steps to get start a self-hosted WordPress blog, no technical experience required.
Step 1: Decide what to blog about
If you’re part of a business, company or organization, your blog should be related to the product(s) or service(s) you provide, or the cause you promote.
If you’re an individual, you have more flexibility when choosing a topic. I talked about it here, but the main things to remember are:
Blog about something you enjoy. If you aren’t excited about your topic, writing about it will be drudgery. Who wants that? Also, why would readers be interested if you aren’t?
Blog about something with plenty of room for discussion. A blog requires a lot of content to get going and remain interesting. You’ll be at this a long time so make sure you have plenty to talk about.
Choose a niche in which you can establish yourself as an authority. You probably won’t be the first person to blog about the topic you choose. It’s almost guaranteed someone else has thought of it before you. Don’t fret about this, come up with a unique angle. Do you have a reasonable chance of making your blog better than others talking about the same thing?
The goal for any blog is to become the go-to resource for its topic or niche.
FAQ: What if I can’t decide on a blog topic?
Start anyway! A common beginner mistake is thinking you have to be sure of a topic to start. If you’re like most of us, you’ll either switch topics or settle into something as you go.
Step 2: Choose a blogging platform
If you want to cook, you need a kitchen. If you want to blog, you need a blogging platform.
There are many blogging platforms to choose from. WordPress, Blogger, Squarespace, Wix and Weebly are a few.
All have pros and cons, but WordPress is by far the most popular (source), and for good reason. It’s flexible, functional and has a large community of users who share tools and ideas.
I use and recommend WordPress (but not through WordPress.com).
If you choose WordPress, you have two options: hosted or self-hosted.
Hosted WordPress blogs, sometimes called WordPress.com blogs, are free but limit your income potential.
Self-hosted WordPress blogs, sometimes called WordPress.org blogs, cost a little money but give you much more control, and do not limit your income potential.
This guide will teach you how to start a self-hosted WordPress blog, the platform preferred by beginner and veteran bloggers alike.
Note: Even though a self-hosted WordPress blog is sometimes referred to as a “WordPress.org” blog, you are not limited to a .org at the end of your name. You can still use .com, just like I do for AmyLynnAndrews.com.
Alright, let’s get set up!
Step 3: Find a host
Hopefully I’ve convinced you of the merits of WordPress, but there’s one more thing to know. WordPress is simply software. You can download it to your personal computer, but then your blog will only be accessible to you. In other words, WordPress by itself, won’t make your blog live on the internet.
In order for your blog to be online, and accessible to anyone, you need server space. You get server space from a hosting company or “host.”
What host should you use?
I recommend a host I have personally paid for and used for over a decade. (As a longtime paying customer, the links below are my referral links. This means, at no additional cost to you, I will earn a commission if you make a purchase.)
Select your plan
Choose the plan you’d like to start with by clicking one of the green “select” buttons. I typically go with Plus or Prime because you get more unlimited features.
Domain privacy, which I highly recommend, comes included with Prime. If you choose Plus, you’ll have the option to add it later for about $1 a month.
On the next screen, you’ll enter your new blog name. Don’t have one yet? You can easily move on without one.
Step 4: Pick a domain name
A domain is a web address. For example, AmyLynnAndrews.com is my domain name.
If you don’t already have ideas, use your name, or think of something short, catchy and shareable.
If you have previously registered a domain and want to use it for this new site, enter it on the right. (Don’t worry, it won’t mess things up to enter it here. It only identifies your Bluehost account for now.) If you don’t already have one, enter your desired domain on the left
For the purpose of this tutorial, I will use a new domain. If you are using an existing domain, the process is nearly the same. You can still follow along easily.
FAQ: What if the domain name I want isn’t available?
No worries! Take advantage of Bluehost’s option to choose a different one later. Simply click the “Choose Free Domain Later” button in the popup that appears and looks like this:
Choose an account plan based on how far in advance you want to pay. Bluehost bills 1, 2, 3 or 5 years upfront. They do not offer a monthly payment option (hosts that do often charge double or triple). As you can see, it works out to be a very reasonable monthly amount. Not bad for your own blog or website, right? It’s a great deal.
I skip the add-ons except Domain Privacy Protection. The others can easily be added later if needed. (Domain privacy is only available for new domains. If you selected the Prime package, it’s free.) This protection keeps your personal information private. The only time I would skip domain privacy is if you are using a business address and don’t mind if it’s visible to anyone who looks up your domain.
The total is the amount you’ll pay today. You won’t have to pay again for 12, 24, 36 or 60 months, depending on the account plan you chose. Set it and forget it!
Enter your billing info
Next, fill in your billing information, confirm that you’ve read the fine print and then click Submit.
Skip the upgrades & special offers
Once you hit submit, you’ll be asked if you want to add any upgrades or special offers. I skip them by clicking the “no thanks” link.
Choose a password
After your purchase is complete, you’ll be asked to choose a password. Just click the “Create your password” button to choose a secure password.
This password will allow you to login and get started.
Step 5: Get started with WordPress
You can start working on your WordPress site right away. Click the blue login button in the “Congratulations!” window to get started with WordPress.
Skip the free themes
Bluehost gives you the option to pick a free theme immediately. Unless you are familiar with one listed, I recommend you skip it by clicking “Skip this step” at the bottom of the screen. Why? Because many free themes are not kept updated. Outdated themes leave holes hackers can exploit and are not worth the risk.
The theme that comes pre-installed will suffice for now. You can switch to a different theme once you’re set up and more familiar with WordPress.
Start building your site
Your site will be on a temporary domain at first. Don’t be alarmed.
For new domains, this is because it takes 2-24 hours for your chosen domain to become fully registered. Go ahead and start working on your site. When the real domain is ready, Bluehost will switch it for your automatically.
If you used an existing domain in Step 4, you can contact Bluehost support (New Hosting Customers) or look in the help section when you are ready to connect your existing domain to this new site.
You have two options on this screen, the blue “Start Building” button and the link underneath to go to your Bluehost account:
It’s unlikely you’ll need to access your Bluehost account at this point so clicking the “Start Building” button will take you to your new WordPress site like so:
The black column on the left indicates your WordPress dashboard, a place with which you will become very familiar.
I recommend skipping the blue buttons in the middle of the screen (Business & Personal) and choosing “I don’t need help” instead. Why? I prefer to start with a clean slate.
FAQ: Help, I’m stuck! What do I do?
If you encountered something unexpected during setup, contact Bluehost technical support. Calling is better than chatting. If you’re in the US, call 844-213-7846. They have access to your account (something I don’t have) and should be able to get you unstuck.
Step 6: Design & use your blog!
Congratulations! You’re the proud owner of a self-hosted WordPress site. Before diving in, I recommend making these tweaks to your settings:
Change your permalinks. I explain why and how in this post here.
Change your username from “Admin” to something more secure. Read about that and find instructions here.
Activate your domain. If you chose a new domain in Step 4, find the appropriate welcome email and click the button inside to complete the activation process.
Change your domain from HTTP to HTTPS. Again, for security. Read the FAQ below for instructions.
FAQ: How do I switch from HTTP to HTTPS on Bluehost?
Note: This option is only available once your domain registration is fully completed and you are no longer on your temporary domain (see Step 5 above). You’ll know this is the case when you type your chosen domain into any browser (Chrome, Safari, Firefox, etc.) and your domain works, without forwarding to a weird looking domain in the address bar. If your site is still using a temporary domain, put a reminder on your calendar to come back in 2-24 hours to finish this step.
HTTPS vs. HTTP
Until recently, website URLs typically looked like this: http://amylynnandrews.com
However, there’s been a push to convert sites over to look like this: https://amylynnandrews.com
Do you see the difference? It’s just an “s” after the http. That “s” indicates a site is secure and less prone to prying eyes. That’s important.
Second, it keeps your site on Google’s good side. That’s important too. Why? As of late 2017, Google may alert people when a site is insecure. No site owner wants a visitor to get a big fat warning that their site is insecure!
Turn on your free Bluehost SSL certificate
If you registered a new domain above, turn on your free SSL certificate to put an extra layer of protection for your visitors. Don’t be intimidated by the fancy term. It’s easy. (If you have an existing domain registered elsewhere, check with that company about getting an SSL certificate.)
Login to your Bluehost account by clicking on this link. Select the “hosting login” tab if it isn’t already. Use the login information you received via email immediately after signing up with Bluehost in Step 4 above.
Once you’re logged in, click on “My Sites” in the left column. Then hover over the thumbnail image of your site. Click the “Manage Site” option that appears like so:
On the next screen, select the “Security” tab at the top. Turn on the Free SSL Certificate by toggling the switch to “On”:
That’s it! Give it a little bit of time to catch up. When you type your domain into Chrome for example, you’ll see a secure icon:
An insecure site will have an “i” with a circle around it like this in Chrome:
With the above settings adjusted, your blog is ready to go!
There are many directions you can go at this point, but know this: you will feel overwhelmed, especially at the beginning. This is normal. When it comes to starting a blog, there is a steep learning curve, but don’t give up! Push through! Most of us have been in that very spot too. If you want some encouragement, read my post 18 Tips for New Bloggers.
Where to begin? Here’s a basic roadmap…
Learn more about WordPress. Visit my Contents page for an organized list of tips, tools & tutorials. Check out the WordPress section in particular. If you work your way through this list of articles, you will have a good handle on the basics, from adjusting your settings to publishing your first post.
After that, start building your content. Write high quality posts on a consistent basis. Remember, your goal is to become the go-to resources in your topic or niche.
Once you have some excellent posts published, start dabbling in social media. This post will give you pointers for that.
Rinse & repeat.
FAQ: How do I log into WordPress once I log out?
You can always login to WordPress by going to yourdomain.com/wp-admin. Substitute “yourdomain” for your actual domain name of course.
If you don’t remember your login info, find the welcome emails sent to you after you set up your site initially. Look in your spam folder if you don’t see them immediately. Those emails have two sets of login information:
WordPress, where you write your posts and manage your blog
Bluehost, where you manage your hosting account and pay your hosting bill
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Unconditional love means that you and your partner focus on what keeps you together. I
By: ALISON MANDEL
t does not mean you ignore the reality of a relationship and disregard abuse or neglect. It does not mean you can’t separate if both partners are unhappy.
If you’re looking to love your partner unconditionally, here’s how to do it in a healthy way.
1. Work through the hard times.
Endure during unfavorable conditions. Don’t let the dark and disappointing times fool you into thinking that you can’t be in the relationship. Believe your love is worth fighting for and work through obstacles. Together. As a team.
2. Embrace every moment together.
Understand the fact that love is filled with ups and downs. Welcome into your heart every single part of it—the happiness, the romance, the adventures, the home-in-pajamas-time, the jokes, the laughter, the disagreements, the sadness, the tears, and all of the unknowns in between. No love is perfect, but the bad is just as much a part of the love as the good.
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3. Don’t give up at the first site of imperfection.
Accept your partner as a human being who makes mistakes. You and your partner both have flaws, obsessions, particularities, and opinions. Even those with the most easy-going attitudes have quirks. Just because your partner isn’t perfect doesn’t mean he or she is not a good fit for you. It also doesn’t mean they are not a good person. Understand that no one is perfect, not you nor your partner. But that’s okay!
4. Strike a balance and have mutual respect.
Do whatever you need to do to divvy up tasks, chores, and responsibilities in the relationship. If that means making a spreadsheet, great—do it. Maybe that means having one simple conversation. Either way, after you’ve figured out the balance in your relationship, don’t keep score. Relationships involve both give and take, and you don’t want to encourage resentment in either one of you. Make compromises for your partner. Allow your partner to make compromises for you. Respect each other.
5. Believe you and your partner both deserve happiness.
Above all, you and your partner deserve to be happy. One would never suggest staying in a relationship in which you are unhappy. However, if you truly love your partner, you can choose to try to make it work. Believing you both are worthy of happiness will put you in the right direction.
Unconditional love is not ignoring the trials and tribulations that come with combining two lives into one, but rather accepting them as part of the relationship as a whole.Unconditional love is what makes you want to stay and work on the relationship.
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BUT, should you let your husband abuse you? NO.Should you let your wife degrade you? NO. Should you tolerate cheating or neglect? NO.
Possible cure for cancer
By: Professor Chen Horin
"Pieces of lemon in a glass of hot water can save you for the rest of your life," says Professor Chen Horin, chief executive of the Beijing Military Hospital.
Even if you are busy, you should look at this message and pass it on to others!
Hot lemons can kill cancer cells!
Cut the lemon into three pieces and place it in a cup, then pour hot water, it will become (alkaline water), drink it every day will certainly benefit everyone ..
Hot lemons can once again release an anti-cancer drug.
Hot lemon juice has an effect on cancerous tumors and
has shown treatment for all types of cancer.
Treatment with this extract will only destroy the malignant cells and will not affect healthy cells.
Second: The acids and mono-carboxylic acid in lemon juice can regulate hypertension and protect narrow arteries, adjust blood circulation and reduce blood clotting.
After reading, tell someone else and pass it on to someone you love and take care of your personal health.
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